7 Rules for Being Alone and Being Happy About It
We find ourselves constantly looking for a company, for some familiar face so that we don’t feel alone. But what’s so bad about being alone? Do we not know how amazing we are and therefore we try to find other people who would make us feel good?
Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.”
― C. JoyBell C
The relationship you have with yourself is the one that will last your whole life.
1. Know yourself Better:
You have to get to know yourself first. It’s the same process you had at the beginning of your every relationship. What are your small victories and the biggest successes?
When you know yourself, you are able to make better choices about everything, from small decisions like which sweater you’ll buy to big decisions like which partner you’ll spend your life with. You’ll have guidelines you can apply to solve life’s varied problem
2. Pamper yourself:
We all need some time alone. So dress up and get a cup of coffee at your favorite coffee place. Or go to the movies by yourself. Take a one-day trip to some city near you and take pictures of everything. Pampering yourself is the utmost therapy one can give to the self.
3. Workout and Build a healthy Lifestyle:
Maybe it’s time to reconnect with yourself on a physical level. Start a new exercise program that will help you get into shape, feel good about your body, and even reap the numerous benefits of endorphins. Thats going to make you feel more beautiful inside out and make you fall in love with yourself all over again.
4. Ditch your Comfort Zone:
Try doing things that you’ve never done before. Try not to have your guard up and be open to all possibilities; you don’t know that you won’t like something until you’ve tried it. Also, you can start researching things that interest you, no one is going to judge you. Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things can lead to new friends and amusing experiences. It all starts with you smiling and saying hello to someone else.
5. Explore new hobbies:
Some people who find that they don’t like spending time alone are simply bored when they do so. You must retrain the mind by developing habits and hobbies that can consume your attention. Gardening, walking, learning a new language, baking, reading, studying classic films could be one of the hobbies.
6. Find your quiet time:
Quiet time is essential in our lives just like healthy food, exercise, and interacting with loved ones; however, many of us don’t realize it. Spending time with yourself is important. You can find your quiet time anywhere. Try driving in the car for ten minutes in silence, or sitting on the train without looking at your phone, or going on a walk and bringing nothing with you. Don’t worry about finding your thoughts. They’ll find you.
7. Explore new places
Maybe you feel stuck. Or bored. Or frustrated. It’s not that you don’t like the life you live, it’s just that you suspect there’s something more. Travelling to new places is one of the most beautiful experience you can ever come across. You will get some greater sense of meaning or excitement. New connections. New adventures. New possibilities.